Divorce is a term referring to the lawful termination of a marriage bond by the court of law or any other authorized institution (Bair, 2007). A divorce results when a husband and a wife decide to end up their marriage and live separately. The law requires divorcing couples to sign some legal documents symbolizing the end of their marriage. Law courts and other competent bodies determine the provisions of a divorce. The causes of a divorce and other marriage accords require to be written down before the onset of any court process relating to it (Bair, 2007). This reduces the recurrence of disputed divorces cases. After a successful divorce, each individual is free to remarry. One must make tough decisions before deciding to divorce considering the numerous changes that he or she will have to cope with after a successful divorce process.
Psychologists argue that all normal families are often faced many challenges. While some people choose to confront and solve these challenges, others opt for the divorce as the most appropriate way to tackle afflicting family issues (Bair, 2007). The specific reason for the divorce is unique to each family setup. Varied priorities and hopes in several families are the main contributing factors to the disputes in families resulting in divorce. However, this issue is normally overlooked by couples before the marriage. It is only after the marriage that it clearly presents itself and becomes significantly difficult to deal with. Psychologists suggest that each individual is unique, and despite the numerous disputes on this fact, we end up appreciating our distinctiveness (Bair, 2007). This personality difference has led to numerous conflicts between couples. In their quest to solve the issue, some have ended up divorcing. However, in such a scenario, the advisable approach is to settle the disputes in an amicable way since no couples are guaranteed of similar priorities and expectations.
Some couples may prove to be completely incompatible. Often, such couples gradually get bored of each other, and eventually, their marriage becomes intolerable. In such a case, the failure to divorce will present serious conflicts in the couple’s marriage. Because of these conflicts, relationships in such families become compromised. Children brought up in such families often exhibit the undesired behaviors.
Sex is a vital feature in every marriage (Grimm, 1995). Couples depend on each other to fulfill this act. In this regard, issues of sexual satisfaction and compatibility present serious challenges. These issues vary from one family to another. Due to the reproductive incapability, some couples fail to sire children. Because of the desire to have their own children, some affected partners opt for the divorce. In some extreme cases, sexual dissatisfactions lead to the divorce (Hamilton, 1938). In such situations, one of the partners is blamed for a sexual under-performance or an over-performance. As result, one of the partners could opt for infidelity as an alternative. In such a case, the divorce is normally justified because it will help to protect the faithful partner from sexual frustrations and sexually transmitted infections (Grimm, 1995). If the divorce process is unsuccessful, and the issues in such a family remain unaddressed appropriately, one of the partners will become emotionally stressed, and mistrust between the partners will enhance continuous conflicts.
In every family and marriage, drug addiction is as a major challenge that cannot be ignored. If a parent is engaged in drugs, he or she brings disgrace to the family. In this regard, children become emotionally traumatized by their parent’s behaviors (Piorkowski, 2008). The drugs addicted parents are usually irresponsible, and their children end up with little or no attention. Similarly, a drug-addicted parent may end up spending the family’s resources to meet his or her craving for drugs causing financial constrains and in some extreme cases, bankruptcy. Often, such families witness complaints and arguments among the family members resulting in physical and emotional abuse. The psychological abuse encountered in such family set ups include violence, patronizing, terrorizing and possibly, spouse rape. Concerning such behaviors, I would advocate for a divorce in the afflicted family. The failure to execute the divorce in such a case will lead to dysfunctional families. Consequently, a dysfunctional family will raise children with social difficulties and irresponsible behaviors (Piorkowski, 2008).
Another major cause of the divorce is the child-upbringing related issues. Arguments arise among parents on issues regarding their children. Such arguments are illustrated when parents argue over simple tasks like cleaning the baby or fetching the children from school. For some individuals, parental responsibilities may not have been clearly outlined before the marriage. In this regard, some parents find it difficult to withstand the responsibilities and dedication required in raising children. In such situations, some people prefer to divorce although it may adversely affect their children psychologically. However, the divorce can be justified when one of the parents proves to be significantly irresponsible. For instance, some parents are irresponsible to the extent that they expose their children to various risks and other harmful habits, which not only affect their behavior but also their health.
The communication breaks up issues have also considerably enhanced family breakdowns (Wolcott, 1999). Because of the ineffective communication, misunderstandings arise in families. Most couples perceive communication in the marriage as an act of concurring with each other’s ideas and opinions (Wolcott, 1999). Because of obvious disagreements, these couples assume that their marriage is not functioning properly and may end up divorcing. However, this assumption is misguided because healthy communication entails both agreements and disagreements on the ideas and opinions. In my opinion, the divorce in such instances is justified because the research shows that parents with communication issues have unproductive relationship between them and their children (Tannen, 1990). With poor communication, children develop a feeling of being unloved and unwanted. These consequences are unhealthy to the children’s growth and may alter their behaviors.